A Very Good Day

It is 7:31 am…

It is still very early in the day and I have made a decision to have a great day. I honestly believe that many things in life are like that…meaning that you just have to decide what something is going to be and make it happen. I have to decide I am going to lose weight and make it happen. I have to decide to become more organized and make it happen. I have to decide to spend more time with my little munchkins and make it happen. I have to decide to grow my company and then make it happen.

It’s funny to think about how much control we have over our life and yet we don’t use the power of that control to build the life we want. I use the term funny but it’s really not funny it’s actually sad that we do not take control of our lives and just go make it happen. People say that it’s not that simple but in many situations it really is that simple. For example I have been doing really well on my dietary choices however yesterday I chose to eat dairy and I chose to eat bread and because I of that choice I woke up this morning feeling puffy and less clear thus I am choosing to do better today. I am choosing to only put things in my body that are good for me and also make me feel good long term. It is always a choice.

I am also choosing to start and finish that online course I bought. I am choosing to clean off my desk, clean my car and do my follow up calls. These things are all choices and they are choices that help me have a very good day.

Do it now!

Nothing and no one is going to do it for you! The time is right now! It amazes me how many people have dreams and aspirations and they’re still waiting for the right moment for it to happen. It will never happen if you don’t make it happen 🙂 I really should put an exclamation point at the end of that last sentence but for some reason I felt like putting a 🙂 because I feel like it’s an inside joke that’s not really a joke it’s actually really very serious. People are hoping and waiting for their dreams to come true and the truth of the matter is dreams never come true without hard work, discipline and consistency. I just left a meeting that was put on my schedule yesterday even though I already have a busy schedule but I knew it was important for me to go because it will help me to continue to build my dreams. That meeting will help my dreams come true. Before I got 100% focused on my goals, I would make excuses why I could not do something instead of making reasons why I could do something. The time is right now I don’t know how old you or I don’t know what the conditions are around you but every day that goes by you’re one day closer to your dreams coming true if you make it happen. Set your sights, get a plan and execute. The time is now!!

Just say no to gurus…

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People are not chickens. People are smart.  People are kind. People can love. People are amazing!  People are also gullible,  sad, insecure and lonely and most gurus…even the good ones….play on this.  I am not talking about far out Jim Jones or 60’s communal gurus. I am talking about every day gurus that people follow without thinking about why or thinking about who they are really following. 

I go to church and I love my church however I do not follow religion or agree blindly with every word that a leader says.  For example I actually got into a very intense debate at church with a lady because I believe in gay rights and I believe that people should be allowed to love who they love.  My church does not dictate how this lady thinks and it does not dictate how I think and I have seen a little bit of “everybody” at my church.  We can think differently and still worship together.

I was however involved with a company a long time ago and because of the magnetism of the leader and my desire to be apart of something bigger than me, I allowed myself to become devoted to a man and a company that had some serious ethical issues behind the scene. For example there were instances of abuse of various kind that were swept under the rug. There were leaders that were straight up drug addicts even though we were told to live a clean and healthy lifestyle.   The beautiful part of my experience with that company is that I was taught some very powerful life lessons and my eyes were opened to the fact that I could be more and accomplish more than I ever had in my life up until then.  The sad part is that I wasted a lot of time,  energy and money chasing the Wizard of OZ when in reality everything I needed was right inside of me.  I made that choice to be in that situation.  I must be clear about that.

Back to the guru thing.  What I am trying to say is that there are people out there that want to help people and because of that desire they market an idea, product or service to people.  People then benefit from the idea, product or service and in turn that company or person becomes successful and this success may go to their head.  Instead of using their success for good they use it to manipulate and control people.  In some cases people actually start off trying to manipulate and control people. 

There are so many times since my experience with “that” company that some one has invited me to see “this” man or woman that has all the answers to…. (plug in your subject of choice) and as soon as I walk into the room I can feel the bs factor kick in i.e. everyone talking the same way, everyone saying the same thing, and everyone there is “absolutely amazing” or “absolutely awesome.” I am all for the warm and fuzy feeling.  I live for it but I can’t stand when someone abuses people through manipulation and staging.  You know…..the older guy in the back of the room that looks like a million bucks who is obviously very busy but he takes a moment to shake your hand, look you in the eye and explains how glad he is that you are there and that you are “in for a treat.” Or the beautiful young woman in her 20’s that looks and smells awesome and would fit in at any Hollywood upscale party but nooooo she is there just because she is so excited about what is going on. Or better yet…the lights go down, but not to dark…you can still see the person sitting next to you and there is a buzz in the air and a well dressed gentleman (not overly well dressed just a notch above everone else) comes out on the stage and thanks you for coming and explains how honored he is that you (and 300 others) choose to come today and that you are special just for taking the time to be there. Then he tells you a little about him self and how his life was changed by (your choice of idea, product or service) and then he proceeds to speak well of the person you are ACTUALLY there to see. First he lists a couple of the gurus accomplishments and then he tells a personal story about the guruv and then he says more nice stuff (but not to over the top…the good ones know better) and then he introduces the guru. The guru will either come out and look and speak impressive and look amazing OR he will look ordinary and sometimes less than ordinary but will be a master storyteller but either type will make you feel like “FINALLY,  I have found what I have been missing.”

The reason I am bringing this subject up is because there are people out there that are hurting or they just need a little help to get their life moving in the right direction.  Those people, including myself, need help and many of the ideas, products and services are helpful but people also need to understand how to tap into that universal power that is available to everyone.  We just need to get clear so we can let that power guide and direct us in our lives.  Also I bring this up because now there are so many ways that these gurus can get to people because of technology. There is nothing wrong with gurus doing their job. The problem comes when people stop thinking for themselves and start believing that they are nothing without their guru or that they cannot  navigate life without their guru.  You have what it takes to create an awesome life.  Don’t be a chicken.  Go for it!