Just say no to gurus…

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People are not chickens. People are smart.  People are kind. People can love. People are amazing!  People are also gullible,  sad, insecure and lonely and most gurus…even the good ones….play on this.  I am not talking about far out Jim Jones or 60’s communal gurus. I am talking about every day gurus that people follow without thinking about why or thinking about who they are really following. 

I go to church and I love my church however I do not follow religion or agree blindly with every word that a leader says.  For example I actually got into a very intense debate at church with a lady because I believe in gay rights and I believe that people should be allowed to love who they love.  My church does not dictate how this lady thinks and it does not dictate how I think and I have seen a little bit of “everybody” at my church.  We can think differently and still worship together.

I was however involved with a company a long time ago and because of the magnetism of the leader and my desire to be apart of something bigger than me, I allowed myself to become devoted to a man and a company that had some serious ethical issues behind the scene. For example there were instances of abuse of various kind that were swept under the rug. There were leaders that were straight up drug addicts even though we were told to live a clean and healthy lifestyle.   The beautiful part of my experience with that company is that I was taught some very powerful life lessons and my eyes were opened to the fact that I could be more and accomplish more than I ever had in my life up until then.  The sad part is that I wasted a lot of time,  energy and money chasing the Wizard of OZ when in reality everything I needed was right inside of me.  I made that choice to be in that situation.  I must be clear about that.

Back to the guru thing.  What I am trying to say is that there are people out there that want to help people and because of that desire they market an idea, product or service to people.  People then benefit from the idea, product or service and in turn that company or person becomes successful and this success may go to their head.  Instead of using their success for good they use it to manipulate and control people.  In some cases people actually start off trying to manipulate and control people. 

There are so many times since my experience with “that” company that some one has invited me to see “this” man or woman that has all the answers to…. (plug in your subject of choice) and as soon as I walk into the room I can feel the bs factor kick in i.e. everyone talking the same way, everyone saying the same thing, and everyone there is “absolutely amazing” or “absolutely awesome.” I am all for the warm and fuzy feeling.  I live for it but I can’t stand when someone abuses people through manipulation and staging.  You know…..the older guy in the back of the room that looks like a million bucks who is obviously very busy but he takes a moment to shake your hand, look you in the eye and explains how glad he is that you are there and that you are “in for a treat.” Or the beautiful young woman in her 20’s that looks and smells awesome and would fit in at any Hollywood upscale party but nooooo she is there just because she is so excited about what is going on. Or better yet…the lights go down, but not to dark…you can still see the person sitting next to you and there is a buzz in the air and a well dressed gentleman (not overly well dressed just a notch above everone else) comes out on the stage and thanks you for coming and explains how honored he is that you (and 300 others) choose to come today and that you are special just for taking the time to be there. Then he tells you a little about him self and how his life was changed by (your choice of idea, product or service) and then he proceeds to speak well of the person you are ACTUALLY there to see. First he lists a couple of the gurus accomplishments and then he tells a personal story about the guruv and then he says more nice stuff (but not to over the top…the good ones know better) and then he introduces the guru. The guru will either come out and look and speak impressive and look amazing OR he will look ordinary and sometimes less than ordinary but will be a master storyteller but either type will make you feel like “FINALLY,  I have found what I have been missing.”

The reason I am bringing this subject up is because there are people out there that are hurting or they just need a little help to get their life moving in the right direction.  Those people, including myself, need help and many of the ideas, products and services are helpful but people also need to understand how to tap into that universal power that is available to everyone.  We just need to get clear so we can let that power guide and direct us in our lives.  Also I bring this up because now there are so many ways that these gurus can get to people because of technology. There is nothing wrong with gurus doing their job. The problem comes when people stop thinking for themselves and start believing that they are nothing without their guru or that they cannot  navigate life without their guru.  You have what it takes to create an awesome life.  Don’t be a chicken.  Go for it!