It is still very early in the day and I have made a decision to have a great day. I honestly believe that many things in life are like that…meaning that you just have to decide what something is going to be and make it happen. I have to decide I am going to lose weight and make it happen. I have to decide to become more organized and make it happen. I have to decide to spend more time with my little munchkins and make it happen. I have to decide to grow my company and then make it happen.
It’s funny to think about how much control we have over our life and yet we don’t use the power of that control to build the life we want. I use the term funny but it’s really not funny it’s actually sad that we do not take control of our lives and just go make it happen. People say that it’s not that simple but in many situations it really is that simple. For example I have been doing really well on my dietary choices however yesterday I chose to eat dairy and I chose to eat bread and because I of that choice I woke up this morning feeling puffy and less clear thus I am choosing to do better today. I am choosing to only put things in my body that are good for me and also make me feel good long term. It is always a choice.
I am also choosing to start and finish that online course I bought. I am choosing to clean off my desk, clean my car and do my follow up calls. These things are all choices and they are choices that help me have a very good day.
Nothing and no one is going to do it for you! The time is right now! It amazes me how many people have dreams and aspirations and they’re still waiting for the right moment for it to happen. It will never happen if you don’t make it happen 🙂 I really should put an exclamation point at the end of that last sentence but for some reason I felt like putting a 🙂 because I feel like it’s an inside joke that’s not really a joke it’s actually really very serious. People are hoping and waiting for their dreams to come true and the truth of the matter is dreams never come true without hard work, discipline and consistency. I just left a meeting that was put on my schedule yesterday even though I already have a busy schedule but I knew it was important for me to go because it will help me to continue to build my dreams. That meeting will help my dreams come true. Before I got 100% focused on my goals, I would make excuses why I could not do something instead of making reasons why I could do something. The time is right now I don’t know how old you or I don’t know what the conditions are around you but every day that goes by you’re one day closer to your dreams coming true if you make it happen. Set your sights, get a plan and execute. The time is now!!
Now is the best time to do it! Sometimes we assume that we can’t pursue our dreams if we don’t have all our ducks in a row. I would like to submit to you that we will achieve our dreams and goals sooner if we start right where we are.What was that look like? Example: If my dream is to buy an apartment complex and yet I do not have the resources (money or credit) to buy one then I can at least start looking at apartment complexes. I sign up for commercial newsletters for companies that sell apartment complexes. I can reach out to property management companies to find get information on managing properties. I can look at the resources and figure out how to position myself to buy one. I can put plans on paper in order to visualize what my goals are. I can audit my talents, skills and abilities to figure out what I can do to make more money. I can run the numbers to create a budget for buying an apartment complex. I can read real estate books, go to auctions and join organizations that are helpful to property owners. The idea is to start moving towards your dreams and goals regardless of where you are right now.Read and consume content that will encourage you to be productive. Start today. Sit down and write out what you want your life to look like. Make you the priority in your life. I have found that it is much easier to achieve my goals when I take care of myself. I am a better business woman, wife and mother when I take take care of myself and focus on my goals.What does focusing on my goals in real life looks like? I now walk 30 minutes a days even if it is at some weird hour of the day. I come home and make phone calls to my clients. I tell my kids “mommy needs 20 minutes of uninterrupted time” and they will (generally) respect that request:). I go to sleep listening to The Science of Getting Rich. I write out my goals every morning and every night.The world needs you. If you have a goal or dream and you achieve it that inspires other people to pursue their goals and dreams. It is becoming increasingly easier to plan out our lives in such a way that we can achieve our hearts desires because there are so many great tools and information out there. But those tools and information don’t mean anything if we don’t use it.My prayer is that you will read this short post in stock right now to start working on your dreams and goals.
I am sitting here with my headphones on listening to Michael McDonald in concert on YouTube in my family room and my girls are sitting on the couch watching some show about building something and then destroying it and I am overwhelmed with peace and joy.
I remember when these songs by Michael came out. I remember loving someone and for what ever reason the relationship did not work out. I remember when Micheal’s music played regularly on the radio with Kenny Loggins, Toto, Ashford and Simpson, The Gap Band, Journey, The Doobie Brothers, Stix, Franky Beverly and Maze and many others (eclectic taste in music). I remember wishing for a better life and I remember still loving the life I had. I remember working in retail and meeting some amazing people and partying together. I remember fun nights, great sex, smiling faces, fashion, bright lights, bright colors, drinking to much and being skinny. I remember the good times! I had so much fun! I remember being an assistant manager and then a manager and I remember being one of the top sales people. I remember nights redoing the windows in my store. I remember “fun” after hours in the stores.
I knew I was going somewhere but I did not know exactly how I was going to get there. I just knew I was going to work hard and have fun and I knew I was going to get there. Where ever there is……is now. I love my amazing husband and my beautiful girls. In my mind I am still working hard but in reality I can breath now. I love harder now and my heart feels safe. I know my heart belongs to a man that only wants me. My girls amaze me with their kindness and beauty. I am so thankful. I know I went through some crazy stuff as a kid but my friends in my late teens and through out my twenties were and are amazing! Some I see and some I only see through social media. I am so thankful for the fun but I am also thankful for them hanging out with me along the path to now:)….even if it was just for a short period of time. I am living what I dreamed of…the pieces all fell into place. Back then I only had glimpses of what it would look like but I knew clearly what it would feel like. I am living that feeling right now…right now my husband just sat down on the edge of the couch with my girls and the three of them are cuddled up and laughing out loud at the tv… I am right where I am supposed to be;)
I am thankful for my family
I am thankful for my business
I am thankful for my ability to persist
I am thankful for my life….
The pain and the process…there are some people that just get it. They make fewer mistakes. They make a plan and follow with very few distractions…that is not my story.
My father was an abusive ass. My dad was charismatic and funny. My dad was a lying delusional idiot. My dad was a very intelligent and resourceful person. I am thankful for the pain of growing up with a father that was a living example of Dr. Jeckl and Mr. Hyde. Why because being in that environment allowed me to know what I did and did not want in a husband. Growing up in that environment also allowed me to be sensitive to other people that come from abusive situations but it also provided me with the insight that, if we choose, we can have a better future if we make better choices.
We had the opportunity to grow up in a decent socioeconomic environment but we also had parents that did not manage money well. I was introduced to the mlm industry where I had great mentors but I also was introduced to some of the sleziest people you could ever meet. I was also introduced to some of the smartest, kindest and successful people. I learned the value and importance of building wealth. I dedicated 7 years of my life to a company that eventually wound up in the toilet. Painful. But seeing that happen inspired me to REALLY start my own business. Thankful!
Watching my dad go to work every day and work from sun up to sundown, regardless of the weather or circumstances, instilled in me a strong work ethic. My dad making us work with him as elementary aged children instilled resentment which turned into fond memories with my sisters and brother. Being dedicated to a marketing company that was environmentally conscious gave me a bigger appreciation for the planet we call home. Working with a company that instilled the importance of hard work, consistency and vision helped me to keep going even when times got hard. Watching that company become a cest pool of lies and manipulation helped me to discover the type of people that I did not want to be around. The pain was worth it. The pain had a purpose. I am happy now because God gave me the strength to overcame the pain and for that I am thankful!
Call me crazy, call me old fashioned, call me antiquated, call me antifeminist(I’m not)….I call me happy. I am an entrepreneur however I am also a wife, mom and just a plain ole’ woman:) There are days in my business where I do not have to be up early and instead of getting up frantically with my husband to get the girls ready I can lay in bed a little longer. I lay there and watch my husband come back from his shower all fresh and clean with his body glistening with water and his hair damp on his head and his towel wrapped around his waist. I watch him…I watch him drop the towel….and proceed to put his clothes on while nonchalantly asking me about the jobs we have on the schedule. Sometimes he will drop the towel and ask “do we have time”…knowing that we don’t and the kids are up and in the other room but it brings a smile to my sleepy face.
I love the feeling that I get thinking about how hard he works to make sure our family is ok. I love knowing that even though he sometimes doesn’t understand the mental pressure that I am under that he does know I hate to do dishes and he does them more often than not. I feel taken care of, loved, appreciated and admired.
Omg!!! He makes me so mad sometimes because we think so different. I am the “we are gonna do this” person and he is the “how are we going to do this” person. I am the “just do it” person and he is the “where are the resources to do it” person. This has been the case since the beginning of our relationship and it is the reason I am still sane and it is also the reason he has more fun in his life.
I love that warm and comfy feeling I get when he spoons me. I love that flutter in my heart when I hear the garage open signaling he is home. I love having a loving father for my children. I love that even though I work outside the home there are just some things that I just don’t and don’t have to do…i.e. fix things, take out the trash, get up when there is a strang sound in the middle of the night and pick up heavy stuff.
I love being a wife. Why would a guy want to be with or marry a woman whose mantra is “I don’t need a man.” Words are powerful. In reality we all can figure out how to get along without a partner in life but life is so much sweeter with someone to love and someone who loves you.
I know some people have had love and lost it or maybe something happened to their special person but those memories of their loved one is still special. I pray that everyone finds love and that that love will endure forever.
I love being still in love after 12 years of marriage. Happy Valentines Day Morgan!
This is so hard for me to look at…but I know I only have myself to blame….I can not even think of fitting into those jeans today but by May I will be back in them. Twenty pounds may not seem like much but on a 5’4 frame it is a lot to gain back. I am sharing this to help others along the way but the main reason is to hold myself personally and publicly accountable to myself. This really is not about anyone but me. I know why I gained the weight back. I gained it back because I stopped doing what was working…eating clean and working out. I let stress and various challenges in life change my focus. I actually handle stress better when I eat clean and work out so why did I fall off the wagon…because I bought my own excuses…like:
I deserve to eat this peach cobbler late at night and not go work out because I dealt with a lot of stress today when in reality my thoughts should have been…wow let me go work out to release some of this stress and I will make sure I eat super clean so I can have the energy to deal with lifes issues.
I am going to eats at my favorite bbq spot and eat mac and cheese and 10 bbq wings dripping in bbq sauce because one of trucks broke down and I am mad…but actually I should have said…I better make sure I continue to eat clean and healthy so I don’t break down.
I sold a lot of jobs today so I am going to reward myself by going to my favorite restaurant and ordering everything on the menu that I like…what I should have done was say wow I am do proud of myself for selling a lot of jobs today so I will finish work early, pack a healthy pic nic and take my girls to the park and play for the rest of the day:)
I could have done so many things differently for the last half of the year but you know what no one ever made progress with coulda, woulda, shoulda so you know what I am going to shake this yukky feeling off and continue on the path that I restarted and focus on the progress I have made in the last 30 days:) In fact today I ate totally clean and I went outside and played with my 8 year old daughter! Rock on:)