Still teetering between 206 and 207….progress feels good. I am moving more and of course being mindful of what I eat. Today I am going to go scuba training today. So much fun. Helpful hint: find fun activities that interest you that also happen to involve physical activity:)
I am not one of those people yet and that is ok. When I say “those people” I am talking about people that are good at things that are difficult for me. For example there are people that love to work out and they do it daily because it is a habit and they love doing it. I am talking about people that manage their money well and keep track of every dime and they have never EVER bounced a check. I am talking about people that create fun and interesting games and activities for their kids and every other kid in the neighborhood with very little effort and they enjoy it. I am talking about people that can see something on Pinterest and can duplicate it exactly. I am talking about people that walk into a room and can conversate with anyone effortlessly. I am talking about people that understand all the “grown up big words” that I should know pertaining to finance and business.
Why am I ok with not being one of those people? I am ok with that because I have learned to love me and to understand that there are things that I am good at that may not seem to impressive but in a pinch usually comes in real handy. For example I like to find the best in a person and compliment and admire them for it, which usually brings a smile to their face. I can walk into a tense situation and still find peace. I can walk into chaos and find a way to bring order or deligate someone to take charge and bring order. When taking care of a group of children I am usually the person that the so called “difficult” child gravitates towards and by the end of the day he/she will be one of the most well behaved children in the group and have a smile on his/hers face. I also have a never quit attitude and even though sometimes I cry…I wont give up:) I am also ok with not being good at “it” because I have learned that if it is something I really want to do I will learn to be good at it or I will pay someone to be good at it for me…that usually works on everything with the exception of working out. Lol! So be happy with you regardless of what you are or are not good at. I still try to do better at the things I am not good. However, I have found that it is far more productive to focus and work on your strengths and not your weaknesses. Do you!
People are not chickens. People are smart. People are kind. People can love. People are amazing! People are also gullible, sad, insecure and lonely and most gurus…even the good ones….play on this. I am not talking about far out Jim Jones or 60’s communal gurus. I am talking about every day gurus that people follow without thinking about why or thinking about who they are really following.
I go to church and I love my church however I do not follow religion or agree blindly with every word that a leader says. For example I actually got into a very intense debate at church with a lady because I believe in gay rights and I believe that people should be allowed to love who they love. My church does not dictate how this lady thinks and it does not dictate how I think and I have seen a little bit of “everybody” at my church. We can think differently and still worship together.
I was however involved with a company a long time ago and because of the magnetism of the leader and my desire to be apart of something bigger than me, I allowed myself to become devoted to a man and a company that had some serious ethical issues behind the scene. For example there were instances of abuse of various kind that were swept under the rug. There were leaders that were straight up drug addicts even though we were told to live a clean and healthy lifestyle. The beautiful part of my experience with that company is that I was taught some very powerful life lessons and my eyes were opened to the fact that I could be more and accomplish more than I ever had in my life up until then. The sad part is that I wasted a lot of time, energy and money chasing the Wizard of OZ when in reality everything I needed was right inside of me. I made that choice to be in that situation. I must be clear about that.
Back to the guru thing. What I am trying to say is that there are people out there that want to help people and because of that desire they market an idea, product or service to people. People then benefit from the idea, product or service and in turn that company or person becomes successful and this success may go to their head. Instead of using their success for good they use it to manipulate and control people. In some cases people actually start off trying to manipulate and control people.
There are so many times since my experience with “that” company that some one has invited me to see “this” man or woman that has all the answers to…. (plug in your subject of choice) and as soon as I walk into the room I can feel the bs factor kick in i.e. everyone talking the same way, everyone saying the same thing, and everyone there is “absolutely amazing” or “absolutely awesome.” I am all for the warm and fuzy feeling. I live for it but I can’t stand when someone abuses people through manipulation and staging. You know…..the older guy in the back of the room that looks like a million bucks who is obviously very busy but he takes a moment to shake your hand, look you in the eye and explains how glad he is that you are there and that you are “in for a treat.” Or the beautiful young woman in her 20’s that looks and smells awesome and would fit in at any Hollywood upscale party but nooooo she is there just because she is so excited about what is going on. Or better yet…the lights go down, but not to dark…you can still see the person sitting next to you and there is a buzz in the air and a well dressed gentleman (not overly well dressed just a notch above everone else) comes out on the stage and thanks you for coming and explains how honored he is that you (and 300 others) choose to come today and that you are special just for taking the time to be there. Then he tells you a little about him self and how his life was changed by (your choice of idea, product or service) and then he proceeds to speak well of the person you are ACTUALLY there to see. First he lists a couple of the gurus accomplishments and then he tells a personal story about the guruv and then he says more nice stuff (but not to over the top…the good ones know better) and then he introduces the guru. The guru will either come out and look and speak impressive and look amazing OR he will look ordinary and sometimes less than ordinary but will be a master storyteller but either type will make you feel like “FINALLY, I have found what I have been missing.”
The reason I am bringing this subject up is because there are people out there that are hurting or they just need a little help to get their life moving in the right direction. Those people, including myself, need help and many of the ideas, products and services are helpful but people also need to understand how to tap into that universal power that is available to everyone. We just need to get clear so we can let that power guide and direct us in our lives. Also I bring this up because now there are so many ways that these gurus can get to people because of technology. There is nothing wrong with gurus doing their job. The problem comes when people stop thinking for themselves and start believing that they are nothing without their guru or that they cannot navigate life without their guru. You have what it takes to create an awesome life. Don’t be a chicken. Go for it!
I know that I have been on Kale and egg kick lately but this morning I woke up craving oatmeal. I made old fashioned oatmeal and added blueberries, almonds and a little coconut milk. I also am having my very own awesome, fantabulous, yummy home made bullet proof coffee:) While we are on the subject of food…for lunch I am having salmon with steamed veggies and for dinner I am having chicken breast with salad and a homemade balsamic vinegar and olive oil dressing. Have a great day!
For those of us that set goals and try to achieve success in our chosen area it can be really hard. It can be extremely hard. Hard to stay focused. Hard to find resources. Hards to keep pushing forward. Hard to keep a great attitude through adversity. However it seems that things get a little easier once you make a “real” decision. A real decision makes life easier in so many ways.
I use the term a “real decision” because most of us don’t make real decision because a real decision makes excuses go away. A real decision helps to quell fear. A real decision means that in your mind there is no turning back. A real decision helps you to find the strength to say no to a donut and yes to a kale and egg frittata. A real decision helps to calm your anxiety when you get unpleasant phone calls or texts that question your integrity because of a less that comfortable situation you may be in. A real decision is hard because sometimes it is hard to see the end result of your efforts. In the end a real decision makes things easier because
once you really and I mean really decide what you want, who you are and where you want to be, then getting rid of all distractions is easier. Sticking with your plans is easier. Choosing to keep moving forward and never quiting is easier after you make a “real decision.”
Ok, for some reason it occurred to me that the journey from Atlanta, GA (or anywhere) to Los Angeles CA(or any place) is like life’s journey, and that all that “positive but true” stuff motivational people talk about is real. But I wanted to look deeper/closer at the journey as it relates to life.
There are some people that make goals and get focused and achieve their goals i.e. they get in the car put the address in their gps and just go. They occasionally stop to refuel but for the most part they do not stop to sight see and they do not vere off their path. If an obstacle shows up they deal with it stay focused and keep moving forward until they reach their destination and then all of a sudden their friends are like “how did you get there so fast, you are lucky or you must have left earlier than you said you did in order to get there so fast.” None the less the point is they got to their destination.
Now there is another route to take to get to Los Angeles, CA from Atlanta, GA. Here is what some people’s journey looks like…You get in their car put the address in the gps and head off to LA only to realize that just 15 minutes down the road is an old friend you have not talked to in a while so you stop and visit for a few minutes which turns into hours. Finally you get going again and then you remember that there is an old co-worker that always wanted to go to LA and so you pull over to call them and spend an hour convincing them they should come with you and sure enough after a disappointing hour you finally give up and decide to continue on your journey alone. Once on the highway you get to going really good when you realize you are hungry, tired and a little lonely on the journey so you stop in a friendly looking state (take your pick) and while at a restaurant with an awesome bar you meet some really great people and sure enough you just “click” with someone and a one night stand turns into a hellish 2 1/2 year abusive relationship. One day you wake up and decide you can’t deal with abuse any longer. You get back on your journey to LA. Along the way the car breaks down in a small town and because funds are low you go to the nearest discount place to get the car fixed while you are at the shop a nice man behind the counter notices your frustration and offers you a job for a short period of time “until you get on your feet.” So instead of continuing on your journey you do the “logical” thing and take the job for a short period of time which becomes 3 years and as such you meet a nice person settle down, start a family and wake up one day and both of you are tired of the small town and decide to get back on the journey to LA. Along the journey you become depressed and discouraged thinking about what could have, should have and would have been if you would have stayed on the journey years ago. Your loved one, sensing your frustration and wanting to make you feel better decides that it would be nice to stop at the Grand Canyon and visit with some relatives you all have not seen for over a year. Your visit only reinforces the fact that you really need to get to LA. You get going again and just as you are crossing into the city of LA you start to think “what the heck am I doing? I don’t have the talent, ability or smarts to make it out here.” You start to look back and think of all the missed opportunities and detours on the journey. You start to think of the lost years that you were side tracked doing something else. You start to think and think and think and think and think not realizing that even though your journey was different than the person that got there earlier you still made it. You made it. You made it to LA!
Get focused and stay on your journey! Rock On!!!!